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Dear Ann Landers,
his is in response to "Ceiling Zero," the Pennsylvania woman who did not want to sleep in the same bed with her husband, so she moved into the guest room. (He had told her that if she was in his bed, she should know "what to expect.") ANN IA\\ III 15 S My husband and I have no problem with sexual incompatibility, but we do have a mutually satisfactory sleeping arrangement that Pennsyl-vania might consider. For the first few years of our marriage, I slept without covers on 17 inches of a 54-inch double bed. My husband was a restless sleeper and sprawled horizontally across the bed and hogged the blankets. My solution was to redecorate. I bought two twin beds. They each have their own covers, are made up separately and then pushed to-gether. With one bedspread, it looks like a king-size bed. Now, after almost 50 years of marriage, we both like our sleeping arrangement and nobody feels exploited. Pennsylvania and her hus-band seem to be thoroughly confused about sex, sleep, night and bed- things that are not necessarily related. A sexual act can take place on the kitchen floor or under the dining room table as well as in a number of other locations in the house. It can occur during the day or night. Sleep, however, generally occurs in bed and usually at night. Your advice to seek counseling is right on target. Sign me -Sleeping Beautifully in California

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, brushed her hair, put on a pretty nightie, dabbed perfume all over and waited in vain for her husband to make a move. When he did nothing, she said, “It was humiliating for me to ask him to make love to me, but I did. He told me he was tired and rolled over and went to sleep.” I have a suggestion for that woman and all others with the same problem. When a man says he is too tired, be sympathetic. Say, “I know you are, dear. Lie on your stomach and let me give you a nice re-laxing massage ...” Get some cream or lotion-any kind will do-and give him a wonderfully loving back rub, working your fingers up and down his spine, onto his shoulders and neck, using a circular motion. The quality and variety of the massage is limited only by your imagi-nation. Chances are very good that the back rub will make him realize he wasn’t as tired as he thought. A woman who wants love sometimes needs to be aggressive. She should not wait until her husband comes to her. So, I say to you wives out there, it is high time you got busy and made an effort to get what you want, need and is rightfully yours.

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