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Dear Ann Landers,
Last New Year's Eve, my 15-year-old daughter had a party for her friends, under my supervision, of course. At midnight, while I was busy passing out soft drinks and food, I turned around to see "John," my 40-year-old boyfriend, kissing one of my daughter's 16-year-old friends. This was no ordinary peck on the cheek. The kiss was on the lips, and John's hands were planted firmly on her behind. The girl's arms were wrapped around his neck. When I confronted Mr. Hot Stuff later that night, he said he'd had too much to drink and didn't know what he was doing. John has apologized at least five times, but I can't seem to get that steamy scene out of my mind. He is a caring, wonderful man with a heart of gold, and we get along very well. As far as I know, he has been 100 percent faithful. Until this happened, I was sure he was Mr. Right. Should I forgive him for this one lapse, or is it a red flag that signifies a major character flaw? I need your advice. -- Unsure in Columbia, Ohio

Dear Columbia,
I opt for the one-lapse explanation this time. Accept it. Alcohol can do strange things. Consider this a dead issue, and suggest that John stick to cola on future occasions.



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Are you kidding me? The child is sixteen and the woman's boyfriend is 40. The worst boundary crossed that night wasn’t cheating on his girlfriend but completely inappropriate behavior with a child. Has he apologized to the sixteen year old or her family? Has he recognized how damaging his behavior towards that girls could be? Blaming alcohol is a weak excuse. No, just no.

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Dump him. Huge liability. Disgusting. I don't care how drunk you are. Minors are minors.

Marina's Comment
The boyfriend made a big mistake. He should never have kissed a minor no matter what. It's up to the girlfriend to forgive him or not, but to me that was a huge red flag. What happens next time he has too much to drink? What excuse would he make then? These are questions she should ask herself.

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Any man that would behave like that with a friend of her daughter is one she should never trust with her own daughter.

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uh uh uh uh not in my book! DUMP HIM! Because that is crossing the line and he could be in heap of legal trouble! I would be so worried since if my daughter is around this man!
 
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