Dear Ann Landers, I think you've been out in the sun too long. "Nameless, Faceless and Placeless" discovered that her fiance, Jeremy, was online, pretending to be unattached, and looking to meet women. She planned to trap him by pretending she was one of those mystery females. Now, he wants to meet her. She asked for your advice, because she said she loves the guy and doesn't want to lose him. You told her to stop playing games.
Annie, this guy is a LOSER, and you should have told her to dump him. She has been living with him for more than a year, and they are engaged to be married. He is no immature child. He is in his 40s, and so is she. Why is this jerk looking in the online personals to meet other women? Furthermore, she must have suspected he was not entirely faithful, which is why she resorted to duplicity to find out exactly what he was up to.
You should have told her to get rid of the creep. The wedding ring on his finger will not keep him from straying. Better she should know NOW what kind of guy she is involved with. Please, Ann, reconsider your advice. -- No Mystery in Centereach, N.Y.
Dear Centereach, You are right. My "duh" response was less than helpful. A betrothed male who is still surfing the Internet looking for women needs to be evaluated more carefully. Thanks for cleaning up after me.
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I hope she arranged to meet up with the jerk for a nice surprise. Then she can hand over the engagement ring (if the creep even popped for one) to let him know his cheating ways have been discovered. Let him go and screw around with other women until they also catch him in his games.
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