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Dear Ann Landers,
I have a wife and two sons, ages 15 and 12. I love them dearly, but they are so scatterbrained, they drive me nuts. They constantly are losing keys, glasses, hairbrushes and wallets. They put empty peanut butter jars back in the cabinet and containers in the fridge without the tops screwed on. I once found my wife's purse in the freezer. I am one of those people who likes everything in its place. I have started hiding items from my family so I can find them when needed. I used to lend my wife and kids the scissors or Scotch tape, but I would never see those things again. Now, I refuse to let my family use any of my belongings. I'm sure I drive them as crazy as they drive me, but the truth is, they are the ones who need to change. I have pleaded with them to recognize how frustrating their forgetfulness is to me, but they simply laugh and ask, "Where's the TV remote?" (We have at least three, none of which they can locate.) Do you have a solution to this problem? -- Left-Brained in South Carolina

Dear Left-Brained,
I can tell you they will never change, so stop eating yourself up over their "forgetfulness." It must be difficult for a neatnik such as you to live with slobs, but accept with grace that which you cannot change. It's a no-hoper.



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Totsybug's Comment
Continue to hide whatever you need/use on a regular basis so those items will be there when you need them. Let your wife and kids fend for themselves. Don't even think about loaning your items to them to use unless you want them to be lost/misplaced.

Ky's Comment
Perhaps I'm being harsh, but loving them "dearly," is not the same as loving them unconditionally. I would suggest that, if you're starting to divide everything in the house into yours and theirs, and "lending" them your stuff, you might feel better with a little counseling to explore why you feel more worried about where the remote is than being grateful for a healthy, relaxed family. When I was growing up, everything in the house was "ours."

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I used to find my husbands husband's tools all over the place, even up and down the road into town! Then he'd buy new tools to replace the ones "somebody" stole, plus other ones that caught his eye. I just got a bucket and painted on it "the stuff you lost". Then I made a point of placing it on his work bench and everytime he was in there I'd put the wrenches,keys, sunglasses,pruners or whatever I'd found in his bucket. Pretty soon he got the message and became more careful.

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STEVEN YOUNG's Comment
Thank you so much doctor Moahmmed for curing my GENITAL HERPES VIRUS, is good given a herbal  medicine a try, i am so happy today about my result, herpes virus has a cure i have confirm it now with my own cases, i have been reading different comment about people who are cured from herpes virus, ALS, HPV, CANCER, LUPUS VIRUS and many more with doctor mohammed herbal medicine , i was kind of skeptical so i made up my mid to give him a chance to cure me to to see if the comment i read was legit, i am 100% cure of this virus and i am giving my own comment base on my agreement with this doctor that once i am cure i will give a Testimony. pleases contact this doctor on your cure WHATSAPP/CALL  2349036036397 EMAIL  [email protected]  i am very lucky been among people giving a comment about this great doctor, before i was a comment ready. am grateful for this massive cure of my health. thanks very much 

STEVEN YOUNG's Comment
Thank you so much doctor Moahmmed for curing my GENITAL HERPES VIRUS, is good given a herbal  medicine a try, i am so happy today about my result, herpes virus has a cure i have confirm it now with my own cases, i have been reading different comment about people who are cured from herpes virus, ALS, HPV, CANCER, LUPUS VIRUS and many more with doctor mohammed herbal medicine , i was kind of skeptical so i made up my mid to give him a chance to cure me to to see if the comment i read was legit, i am 100% cure of this virus and i am giving my own comment base on my agreement with this doctor that once i am cure i will give a Testimony. pleases contact this doctor on your cure WHATSAPP/CALL  2349036036397 EMAIL  [email protected]  i am very lucky been among people giving a comment about this great doctor, before i was a comment ready. am grateful for this massive cure of my health. thanks very much 

STEVEN YOUNG's Comment
Thank you so much doctor Moahmmed for curing my GENITAL HERPES VIRUS, is good given a herbal  medicine a try, i am so happy today about my result, herpes virus has a cure i have confirm it now with my own cases, i have been reading different comment about people who are cured from herpes virus, ALS, HPV, CANCER, LUPUS VIRUS and many more with doctor mohammed herbal medicine , i was kind of skeptical so i made up my mid to give him a chance to cure me to to see if the comment i read was legit, i am 100% cure of this virus and i am giving my own comment base on my agreement with this doctor that once i am cure i will give a Testimony. pleases contact this doctor on your cure WHATSAPP/CALL  2349036036397 EMAIL  [email protected]  i am very lucky been among people giving a comment about this great doctor, before i was a comment ready. am grateful for this massive cure of my health. thanks very much 

STEVEN YOUNG's Comment
Thank you so much doctor Moahmmed for curing my GENITAL HERPES VIRUS, is good given a herbal  medicine a try, i am so happy today about my result, herpes virus has a cure i have confirm it now with my own cases, i have been reading different comment about people who are cured from herpes virus, ALS, HPV, CANCER, LUPUS VIRUS and many more with doctor mohammed herbal medicine , i was kind of skeptical so i made up my mid to give him a chance to cure me to to see if the comment i read was legit, i am 100% cure of this virus and i am giving my own comment base on my agreement with this doctor that once i am cure i will give a Testimony. pleases contact this doctor on your cure WHATSAPP/CALL  2349036036397 EMAIL  [email protected]  i am very lucky been among people giving a comment about this great doctor, before i was a comment ready. am grateful for this massive cure of my health. thanks very much 

David Williams's Comment
Hello everyone am here to testify of how I was cure from HERPES  VIRUS, my name is David from United state I was frustrated at early stage I was having this virus because i thought that is the end of my normal living life until late last year I came across this doctor called Dr, Mohammed on website how people are testifying about his grate work on how he has been curing HERPES VIRUS, HPV, ALS CANCER LUPUS VIRUS an many more. that made me to contact him through his email address [email protected] WHATSAPP/CALL  2349036036397. after some procedure  he ship the herbal medicine to me through DHL and i receive and use it about 3 weeks, ever since then i have notice a very big changes and no outbreak  any more, i completed the medication and i went for test after usage and my result was negative, i went to another lab to confirm it was still negative. i can't even believe me eyes. i am so happy today that i am free from this virus. this virus has affected my relationship, my emotions and my life. thanks to doctor Mohammed for curing me and i will always testify about your good work. please contact him for your healing .

David Williams's Comment
Hello everyone am here to testify of how I was cure from HERPES  VIRUS, my name is David from United state I was frustrated at early stage I was having this virus because i thought that is the end of my normal living life until late last year I came across this doctor called Dr, Mohammed on website how people are testifying about his grate work on how he has been curing HERPES VIRUS, HPV, ALS CANCER LUPUS VIRUS an many more. that made me to contact him through his email address [email protected] WHATSAPP/CALL  2349036036397. after some procedure  he ship the herbal medicine to me through DHL and i receive and use it about 3 weeks, ever since then i have notice a very big changes and no outbreak  any more, i completed the medication and i went for test after usage and my result was negative, i went to another lab to confirm it was still negative. i can't even believe me eyes. i am so happy today that i am free from this virus. this virus has affected my relationship, my emotions and my life. thanks to doctor Mohammed for curing me and i will always testify about your good work. please contact him for your healing .

David Williams's Comment
Hello everyone am here to testify of how I was cure from HERPES  VIRUS, my name is David from United state I was frustrated at early stage I was having this virus because i thought that is the end of my normal living life until late last year I came across this doctor called Dr, Mohammed on website how people are testifying about his grate work on how he has been curing HERPES VIRUS, HPV, ALS CANCER LUPUS VIRUS an many more. that made me to contact him through his email address [email protected] WHATSAPP/CALL  2349036036397. after some procedure  he ship the herbal medicine to me through DHL and i receive and use it about 3 weeks, ever since then i have notice a very big changes and no outbreak  any more, i completed the medication and i went for test after usage and my result was negative, i went to another lab to confirm it was still negative. i can't even believe me eyes. i am so happy today that i am free from this virus. this virus has affected my relationship, my emotions and my life. thanks to doctor Mohammed for curing me and i will always testify about your good work. please contact him for your healing .

Marvis Veno's Comment
MY HERPES CURE TO NEGATIVE RESULT. take your time to read my review on how i was cured of the herpes virus completely to 100% negative for ever, i am from the united states, Austin Texas. I usually see my outbreak  for 3 or 4 weeks, my friend introduced me to a herbal doctor who cures the herpes virus and I have witnessed it myself. (doctor's email .. ([email protected]) whatsapp / call 2349036036397 it's been 2 years since I was  cured of this virus, no more outbreaks, no symptoms of the herpes virus, I am so happy to have met people who were cured and to read their testimonials, after taking the herbal medicines, I went to my doctor to check if I was completely negative, he confirmed that I am 100% negative for herpes virus, it is hard to believe that I was cured of herpes with an herbal medicine by Dr. Mohammed, I was tested negative after using the herbal medicine of plants, I went to several laboratories for a blood test and it was the same result, herpes negative, is it true that I was cured? because I thought there was no cure, I'm so happy with my result today, I feel wonderful, you s can also contact him for your treatment. and perfect, no flare-up, no pain and my result came negative after using herbal medicine from Dr. Mohammed. it is true that they say that there is no problem without solution. contact the great doctor for a complete cure for any type of virus and disease, his email address. [email protected] whatsapp / call 2349036036397

Marvis Veno's Comment
MY HERPES CURE TO NEGATIVE RESULT. take your time to read my review on how i was cured of the herpes virus completely to 100% negative for ever, i am from the united states, Austin Texas. I usually see my outbreak  for 3 or 4 weeks, my friend introduced me to a herbal doctor who cures the herpes virus and I have witnessed it myself. (doctor's email .. ([email protected]) whatsapp / call 2349036036397 it's been 2 years since I was  cured of this virus, no more outbreaks, no symptoms of the herpes virus, I am so happy to have met people who were cured and to read their testimonials, after taking the herbal medicines, I went to my doctor to check if I was completely negative, he confirmed that I am 100% negative for herpes virus, it is hard to believe that I was cured of herpes with an herbal medicine by Dr. Mohammed, I was tested negative after using the herbal medicine of plants, I went to several laboratories for a blood test and it was the same result, herpes negative, is it true that I was cured? because I thought there was no cure, I'm so happy with my result today, I feel wonderful, you s can also contact him for your treatment. and perfect, no flare-up, no pain and my result came negative after using herbal medicine from Dr. Mohammed. it is true that they say that there is no problem without solution. contact the great doctor for a complete cure for any type of virus and disease, his email address. [email protected] whatsapp / call 2349036036397

Marvis Veno's Comment
MY HERPES CURE TO NEGATIVE RESULT. take your time to read my review on how i was cured of the herpes virus completely to 100% negative for ever, i am from the united states, Austin Texas. I usually see my outbreak  for 3 or 4 weeks, my friend introduced me to a herbal doctor who cures the herpes virus and I have witnessed it myself. (doctor's email .. ([email protected]) whatsapp / call 2349036036397 it's been 2 years since I was  cured of this virus, no more outbreaks, no symptoms of the herpes virus, I am so happy to have met people who were cured and to read their testimonials, after taking the herbal medicines, I went to my doctor to check if I was completely negative, he confirmed that I am 100% negative for herpes virus, it is hard to believe that I was cured of herpes with an herbal medicine by Dr. Mohammed, I was tested negative after using the herbal medicine of plants, I went to several laboratories for a blood test and it was the same result, herpes negative, is it true that I was cured? because I thought there was no cure, I'm so happy with my result today, I feel wonderful, you s can also contact him for your treatment. and perfect, no flare-up, no pain and my result came negative after using herbal medicine from Dr. Mohammed. it is true that they say that there is no problem without solution. contact the great doctor for a complete cure for any type of virus and disease, his email address. [email protected] whatsapp / call 2349036036397

Marvis Veno's Comment
MY HERPES CURE TO NEGATIVE RESULT. take your time to read my review on how i was cured of the herpes virus completely to 100% negative for ever, i am from the united states, Austin Texas. I usually see my outbreak  for 3 or 4 weeks, my friend introduced me to a herbal doctor who cures the herpes virus and I have witnessed it myself. (doctor's email .. ([email protected]) whatsapp / call 2349036036397 it's been 2 years since I was  cured of this virus, no more outbreaks, no symptoms of the herpes virus, I am so happy to have met people who were cured and to read their testimonials, after taking the herbal medicines, I went to my doctor to check if I was completely negative, he confirmed that I am 100% negative for herpes virus, it is hard to believe that I was cured of herpes with an herbal medicine by Dr. Mohammed, I was tested negative after using the herbal medicine of plants, I went to several laboratories for a blood test and it was the same result, herpes negative, is it true that I was cured? because I thought there was no cure, I'm so happy with my result today, I feel wonderful, you s can also contact him for your treatment. and perfect, no flare-up, no pain and my result came negative after using herbal medicine from Dr. Mohammed. it is true that they say that there is no problem without solution. contact the great doctor for a complete cure for any type of virus and disease, his email address. [email protected] whatsapp / call 2349036036397

Diamond Asare's Comment
I am here to give my testimony about Dr KUTA who helped me cure my HERPES (HSV), i want to inform the public how i was cured from (HERPES SIMPLEX VIRUS) by Dr KUTA, i visited different hospital but they gave me list of drugs like Famvir, Zovirax, and Valtrex which is very expensive to treat the symptoms and never cured me. Two months ago a friend suggested that I try Herbal Medicine; from a very powerful Herbal Doctor called Dr KUTA. I looked up his blog on the internet site and indeed he have had immense success with his product. There were lot of persons posting their testimony about how he cured them. when i contacted him he gave me hope and told me what i need to do an avoid during the treatment, after that He send a Herbal Medicine wish He called ROOTS an HERBS to me that i took and it seriously worked for me, my HERPES result just came out negative. My doctor was shocked how i got cured. I am so happy as i am sharing this testimony. My advice to you all who thinks that their is no cure for Herpes that is Not true just contact him and get cure from Dr KUTA Herbal Center. He can cure of all kinds of STD you may have. Remember your health is precious contact him with his email [email protected] or his whatsapp 2347054547814  

morgan's Comment
Natural herbs have cured so many illness that drugs and injection can't cure. I've seen the great importance of natural herbs and the wonderful work natural herbs have done in people's lives. i read a lot of people's testimonies online on how they were cured of Herpes, HIV, Diabetics, Lymphoma, Fibroid, Cancer etc by Dr. VOODOO herbal medicine, so i decided to contact the doctor because i know nature has the power to heal anything. I was diagnosed with HIV for the past 7 years but Dr. VOODOO cured me with his herbs and i referred my aunt and her husband to him immediately because they were both suffering from herpes but to God be the glory, they were cured too .I know is hard to believe but am a living testimony. There is no harm trying herbs. He is also a spell caster, he cast spell to restore broken marriages and he cast good luck spells to prosper and excel in life. Contact Dr. VOODOO on: /WhatsApp no:or call him 2348140120719 OR email him at: [email protected]
 
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