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Dear Ann Landers,
I am responding to "Unable to Cope in Indiana," whose husband gets angry and blows his top over trivial things. I had the same problem with my husband when our children were growing up. Here's how I handled it: When "Ed" started to pick on the kids, I knew he was stressed out, so I waited until they were in bed, and then I'd kiss him and tell him what a great husband and father he was, and how much I appreciated all the things he did for me and the children. My words of praise changed him from a growling bear to a pussycat. It worked for me, and I'm sure it will work for "Indiana," too. She ought to try it. -- Been There in Hemet, Calif.

Dear Hemet,
You have learned that you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Smart mama. Thanks for the short course on human relations. Have you considered serving as a negotiator for the United Nations?



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My Mother Didn't Always Protect Us's Comment
What this woman is "forgetting" is the abuse happened before she sweet-talked her husband into a better mood. He may have then had a better mood for her, but the children still suffered.

Marilyn Diane Monti's Comment
Dear Ann, I am responding to... Been There in Hemet, Calif. As her children were growing up, her husband blew his top at them over trivial things. After The children were asleep, she placated him with flattery until he was a, "pussycat." It sounds like she was protecting herself while her children spent their life thinking, "Dad is mad at us again." The children are enduring their formative years absorbing the fact that mom is OK with their abuse. Her sons will abuse and her daughters will marry abusers. Her compliance is criminal yet here is your answer. Dear Hemet, You have learned that you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Smart mama. Thanks for the short course on human relations. Have you considered serving as a negotiator for the United Nations? Ann! Men who are truly men do not need to be placated like that over grown, spoiled brat. Who is her husband going to abuse when the children are gone. What's she going to do then? Adopt?

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