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Dear Ann Landers,
Two weeks ago, when I came home from the supermarket, I found a note from my husband saying there was too much pressure in his life and he needed to get away. I immediately checked our bedroom and found that all his clothes were gone. A few days later, I learned he already had another apartment and a new phone number, which proved he had been planning his escape for quite some time. I had an awful feeling of betrayal when I realized that the person I had been sleeping next to for so many years would plan to sneak off and leave me without saying a word. The note he left said he would contact me in a few days. It has been nearly a week, and I haven't heard from him. My friends tell me I should phone him and find out exactly what he has in mind, but I don't want to do that. After all, he is the one who left, and I think he should make the first move. Please give me some advice. -- Confused in the Midwest

Dear Midwest,
Don't rush. Let the dust settle. Wait another week. If you don't hear anything by then, call and tell him you need to know what his plans are so you can make yours. You gave me no clue as to your age, how long you have been married or what your financial status is. If I knew more about your situation, I could be more helpful. Good luck.



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A Note from Margo:
Hi! It's Margo here. I'd love to know what you think of the letters -- and the answers!

Also, any additional thoughts you might have. Thanks!

Celia's Comment
I am reluctant to make this situation worse, but the writer should prepare herself for the possibility (probability) that hubby has a new love interest. This would speak to the 'stress' he has been under - living a double life. Before she contacts the runaway hubby, call a lawyer who specializes in family law. If hubby had planned his departure so well, it's a safe bet that the finances/bank accounts have also been 'adjusted'.

Maryann's Comment
I would run, NOT walk, to the best attorney you can find to protect yourself financially. I would also empty the bank accounts and open new ones in your name only. Hopefully, he has not already done this. Protect yourself!
 
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