Dear Ann Landers, I am writing on behalf of four families in our neighborhood. One of our neighbors has three unruly, screaming, screeching, constantly yelling children between the ages of 3 and 8. We can tell from the noise when they wake up in the morning, when they leave for school, when they come home and, thankfully, when they go to sleep.
We have nothing against young children, Ann. Most of the kids in this area produce a normal amount of noise, and it doesn't bother us. We especially dread "pool time," which can last from one hour (bearable) to six hours (intolerable). Ann, these kids don't play. They yell and screech. During these "screamfests," it's impossible to read, watch TV, relax or converse. A nap is out of the question. When they bring friends over, it's so bad we have to leave our homes and go elsewhere.
We have approached this neighbor and explained that the screaming is too much, but the man was not receptive to our plight and became extremely unpleasant. Our neighborhood used to be a paradise until this family moved in. We all try to be considerate of one another, all except for this neighbor. We have lived here for more than 20 years and don't want to move. What can we do? -- Frazzled in Florida
Dear Frazzled, Make friends with the kids. Serve them treats occasionally, and ASK them to PLEASE not scream when they are playing because it gives you a headache. It won't eliminate the screaming, but it could cut down on the noise.
Stereo headphones might be the answer.
Listening to calming music at times such as these could be a blessing. Try it.
Hi! It's Margo here. I'd love to know what you think of the letters -- and the answers!
Also, any additional thoughts you might have. Thanks!
It seems that these 'children' may have issues that the parents are apparently blind nd deaf to. My first step would be to contact Child Protection and let them know that these little 'darling' sound as though they are being mistreated because of the screaming. Once the idiot parents may begin to feel they may be watched more closely, it's possible things may quiet down somewhat. If not, keep up the reports to the agency because talking with these inconsiderate louts isn't working. You should be able to enjoy your home as they do. I would also get the other neighbors around the noisy house to also get in on this problem so they are on board as well.
Lalia M Smith's Comment
To the woman who advised calling child services: Child services are there to protect children. Not become the go to people to call in petty complaints. You should be ashamed of yourself for even thinking it. DFYS reports often hurt innocent people because of spiteful call ins.
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