Dear Ann Landers, I am 34 years old and have three children under the age of 10. Two years ago, my husband left us and started living with his mother. He also has a girlfriend but has not made any effort to file for divorce.
Here's my question: How long should I go on trying to salvage my marriage? It's hard when only one of us is working at it. Should I just get on with my life without him, or keep praying he will have a change of heart and do the right thing? At what point do I just give up? -- Hurting in Mantua, N.J.
Dear N.J., He's been living with his mother for two years? And he has a girlfriend? It's over, dear. Call your lawyer.
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Dear Hurting: He's been living with his mother for 2 years
He's living with the person he depends on. Get to a lawyer NOW! This worthless scum bag has turned his back on you and your children. Make sure you file for all the assistance you need from him. Those three kids are his also (even though, as usual the 'father' didn't do much to bring them into the world).Go get him. His mother is partly to blame as she is shielding him from you and the kids-the nasty old hag!
It's over, dear.
Get a lawyer now.
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