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Dear Ann Landers,
Here are my spouse's excuses for avoiding sex: I'm tired. I'm too nervous. It's hot. It's cold. I'm too full. I have a headache. I have a stomachache. The kids might hear. I have to go to work. My mind is on other things. It's too early in the morning. It's too late at night. I'll bet you think this letter is from a husband complaining about his wife. You're wrong. It's from a wife complaining about her husband. He is 50 years old, and I am 40. We are both too young to be giving up sex. If you have any suggestions on how to improve this not-so-hot relationship, I'd like to hear them. - - Failing in Fresno, Calif.

Dear Fresno,
The best way to improve a "not-so-hot" relationship is to heat it up. Be subtle but persistent. It sounds as if your husband is unsure of his ability to perform sexually. He needs reassurance, praise and the knowledge that you really do care about him. Start talking.



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A Note from Margo:
Hi! It's Margo here. I'd love to know what you think of the letters -- and the answers!

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If your husband doesn’t want to have sex, he doesn’t have to have sex. He doesn’t owe it to you. Sit down and talk to him if you think there’s something going on, but you absolutely must respect his right to not have sex if he doesn’t want to.

Babs's Comment
Do not be subtle but persistent. Find a new guy who has a similar sex drive as yours.
 
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