Dear Ann Landers, Here are my spouse's excuses for avoiding sex:
I'm too nervous.
I'm too full.
I have a headache.
I have a stomachache.
The kids might hear.
I have to go to work.
My mind is on other things.
It's too early in the morning.
It's too late at night.
I'll bet you think this letter is from a husband complaining about his wife.
You're wrong. It's from a wife complaining about her husband. He is 50 years old,
and I am 40. We are both too young to be giving up sex. If you have any
suggestions on how to improve this not-so-hot relationship, I'd like to hear them. -
- Failing in Fresno, Calif.
Dear Fresno, The best way to improve a "not-so-hot" relationship is to
heat it up. Be subtle but persistent. It sounds as if your husband is unsure of his
ability to perform sexually. He needs reassurance, praise and the knowledge that
you really do care about him. Start talking.