Dear Ann Landers, o I have the right to ask my older sister if she is gay? There are many telltale signs that lead me to believe she is. "Lisa" was a member of a sorority for four years and lived in the sorority house with some very masculine-looking girls. Very few of the girls in that sorority went out with guys. I can't believe they never got asked. My guess is they enjoyed each other's company more. My sister never dates. At present, she is awfully close with a woman friend. They spend nights at one another's homes and are on the phone constantly. One doesn't make a move without the other. Both my brothers and I think something is strange. Should I ask "Lisa" the question straight-out? -A Doubting Sister in a N.Y. Suburb
Hi! It's Margo here. I'd love to know what you think of the letters -- and the answers!
Also, any additional thoughts you might have. Thanks!
Please share your comments below:
Our Reader to Reader Question of the Week:
Dear Readers, , however, insisted that she take HIS name. You suggested she compromise by using her maiden name professionally and her husband's name socially.
I compromised by hyphenating our names when we married. It's made my husband happy, but I feel a tinge of resentment every time I sign my name. Of course, it is too late to change back to my maiden name, because people will assume we are getting a divorce, so I am stuck with my hyphenated name.
There are few things in life as personal as one's name. 'Split's' fiance should not ask her to do something he would not be willing to do himself. After all, SHE is the one who has to live with her choice, not him. A fiance should make only those decisions regarding HIS name and give his future wife the same privilege. -- Mrs. Been There-Done That
