Dear Ann Landers, am sick to death of reading articles titled "Who Is Boss in Your Family?" "The Lady Wears the Pants," or "What Has Happened to Man's Role in Society?" Please tell me what a wife can do when her husband refuses to behave like a grown-up man. Somebody in the family must 147 make decisions, and my husband simply won't do it. He is lethargic and indecisive. If a bill doesn't get paid, he couldn't care less. The house has been falling apart for two years, and he hasn't even noticed. Although he is a carpenter, he refuses to pick up a hammer around here. I have to hire a man to make the repairs or I make them myself. The only thing my husband does with no prodding is drink. He is gassed every weekend.-Married To A Grown-Up Baby
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Dear Readers, , there are days when I think she may outlive me. In recent conversations, Mom has made it plain that under no circumstances will she ever go into a retirement home. She says, 'When the time comes that I cannot manage on my own, I will live with you.' Ann, the thought of us living together is very upsetting. In fact, it's my worst nightmare. I love my mother dearly, but I must take time away from her every three days, or else we end up fighting. I try to visit or communicate with Mom on a daily basis because I am her only friend. Being a realist, I am certain that eventually I am going to have to place my mother in some sort of facility. She refuses to discuss the matter. Whenever I bring up the subject, she acts as if I'm trying to lock her in a dungeon. Please ask your readers who are living in retirement centers to write about their experiences. You have taught me that there can be no better teacher than someone who has been there. Perhaps your readers can help my mother see things differently. Thanks, Ann.
