Dear Ann Landers,
lease tell all men around fifty years of age that they could save themselves a lot of money on doctor bills if once in a while they would tell their wives they love them. Going through the change doesn't bother a woman much if she has a thoughtful, considerate husband. The change is a normal transition. Some of my friends have sailed through it beautifully. With me, it's another story. My hus-band is always telling me about this woman's shape and that one's sexy walk. Every time an attractive girl waits on us in a restaurant his eyes bug out of his head. I see a doctor every week for shots and pills. It's easier to blame the change than to admit I'm depressed because my husband makes me feel like an old bag. I'll bet thousands of other women are in this same lousy boat.-Discarded

Dear Discarded,
The menopause is unquestionably harder on some women than others. It can also produce emotional changes-depression and suspicion. A thoughtful, considerate husband, however, can help. The wife who feels she's over the hill is bound to have a rougher time.