Dear Ann Landers, am in love with a man who is middle-aged (as I am), and we have been going together for almost a year. He is very af-fectionate but has made no effort to become intimate, although he has hinted strongly that he would like to marry me. WAKE lirAM SMELL TIE COFFEE! HI At first I thought he was refreshingly old-fashioned and respected him for it. Later I decided he was extremely shy. Now I am almost cer-tain the man is impotent. Please tell me how I can let him know this sexual dysfunction would not make a particle of difference to me. I be-lieve when you sincerely love a man, you accept him as he is. Many marriages have plenty of sex but fall apart because love and trust, kindness and respect are missing. To share this man's life and fall asleep in his arms every night would be enough for me. The bond cre-ated by intimate caressing and tender words can be much more mean-ingful than the consummated act between people who don't care about one another. How can I let him know my feelings without putting him on the defensive? -Knowledgeable in Sarasota
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Dear Readers, , people have asked me if I’m of mixed race. At the age of 35, I’m ready to find the answer to that question. My parents separated immediately after I was born. My father in-sists that when he was away on a Navy assignment, my mother had an affair. I am deeply hurt that he does not believe I am his biological daughter. I approached my mother about this several months ago because I have many physical characteristics that are clearly biracial. She became very angry and cursed me for raising such an “insulting” question. Since that time, our relationship has been very tense. I’m afraid if I bring up the subject again, she may stop talking to me permanently. I want to end this estrangement, Ann, but I also want to know the truth. Am I blowing this out of proportion? What can I do? -No Name, No City
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