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Dear Ann Landers,
y husband was open-mouthed, slack-jawed and almost turned gray overnight when I told him I wanted to hire a wood craftsman to design a beautiful chest to use in the family room and put some cushions on it so people can sit there-then, when I die, I want it to be my coffin. Besides being able to store blankets in this chest, I will know and become accustomed to my final resting place. I am a practical person. My husband thinks I am crazy. I also told him I want a private funeral, the most inexpensive one available, only wild flowers, and that he should not have me embalmed. I hate funerals and do not want my friends and family looking at me in that shape. Do you think I am kooky? If I put this in my will, who should I give it to? If you print my letter, I ask that I remain anonymous. I'm in enough trouble with my family over this. The neighbors don't have to know.

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, “I really ought to take Billy home. He had a 102 tem- perature this morning. I’m afraid he’s coming down with something.” In 1961 I wrote my first book. It was called Since You Ask Me. In that book, I dealt with the problems that produced the greatest number of letters. Chapter Six of that book was called, “Must We Outlaw the In-Law?” Today, many years later, in-law problems still figure prominently as one of the major causes for marital bust-ups. I am often asked, “How serious is an in-law problem? Has it been exagger-ated? Has the American mother-in-law earned her black eye or is she the in-nocent victim of gag-writers?” My mail provides daily evidence that the in-law problem is no myth. Ex-perts say in-laws figure in two out of five divorces-somewhere. Social critics insist the American matriarchy has crowded Dad so far out of the picture that he isn’t important enough to make trouble. This may be more than a lame joke. My mail indicates that the mother-in-law is at least fifty times as troublesome as the father-in-law. And in most cases, it is the mother of the husband who causes the problem. The constant round of company made me nervous. The baby became cranky and my husband and I started picking at each other. We realize now we were fools to let thoughtless people do this to us. It’s too late for now, but next time we’ll know better. MAD IN MOR

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