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Dear Ann Landers,
less you for having the courage to suggest self-gratification to the 48-year-old woman whose husband hasn't touched her in two years. I am nearly 80 now, and my youth flashed be-fore my eyes when you said you didn't want to hear from any clergy saying it's a sin. When I was 13, our preacher gave me a book to read. It said boys who masturbate would become bald, diseased and insane, lead a life of crime and end up in hell. When my sexual urges became overpower-ing, I did indeed indulge in what they called in those days "self-abuse" and suffered tremendous anxiety and wretched feelings of guilt. Every morning, I woke up wondering if I had gone insane during the night or developed some outward sign that would let the world know of my "unpardonable sin." That terrifying misinformation carried over to my adult life, and it took a long time before I could be a loving husband. Now that I am older and wiser, I see what horrendous damage was done to the youth ANN LANDERS of our day by hypocritical clergy who surely must have experienced the same urges in their younger days. Hurray to you for having the courage to say it in print and remove the burden of guilt suffered by millions of healthy, normal people, both young and old.

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My wife and I have been married 20 years. We have two sweet children and consider ourselves very fortunate. Our problem is one we cannot discuss with our minister. It is very impor-tant that we have an answer and can think of no one better qualified than Ann Landers. My wife believes that sex anywhere but in the bedroom is sinful ac-cording to the Bible. I say a change of setting can add extra pleasure and so long as there is complete privacy it is perfectly moral. The place I have in mind is the car. We have a garage with a sturdy lock on the door. No one could possibly get in. We are good Christians and want to know what the Bible says about this. Can you contact a religious scholar? -Strictly Confidential in Kentucky

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