Dear Ann Landers, My husband is a workaholic. He regularly works on Saturdays and often on Sundays as well. He averages 10 to 12 hours a day. Our three children are grown and doing well. We have purchased annuities for them and our four grandchildren. We give generous gifts of money for birthdays and Christmas and enjoy the fact that we can.
We have two cars, a lovely home, no debts and approximately $1 million in assets. Sound good? Well, we also have no hohbies. We haven't had a vacation in years except for a couple of weekends when we visited our children and their families.
I was a professional woman and worked both inside and outside the home. We are both in our 70s. When does the fun start?
--The Big Q
Dear Q, The fun started for your husband a long time ago. Workaholics would rather work than play, which is why they do it.
Mates of workaholics must make their own fun. If you're in your 70s and haven't discovered that, you're a slow learner, honey.
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Very poor answer from Ann. This woman needs to sit down with her husband and tell him that his behavior indicates he cares more about working than her. What good is all the money if he won't take time to enjoy it together? Working 7 days a week is a direct rejection of her. This man needs therapy to find out why he needs to bury his life in work. Perhaps he has low self-esteem and is trying to somehow prove himself worthy. If this woman is in good health, she could live another 15 or more years. I, for one, would not be willing to spend them alone.
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