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"Marty's mother died. Would you pitch in fifty cents for flowers?" Or, "Sara is getting married on Saturday. Would you care to give a dollar toward a wedding gift?" Or, "Hank is in the hospital. We are sending him a couple of books." I have never said No. Two weeks ago tragedy struck a member of my family. My co-workers did not send flowers, or even a card. Should I turn the other cheek? Or should I in-form the secretary who is in charge of collections that I am fed up?-Put Out

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