Dear Ann Landers,
've been married to an almost perfect husband for thirteen years. We get along beautifully so long as he keeps his hands off me, but this he does not want to do. I married him thinking his good qualities and generosity would make up for the missing ingredient, but I was wrong. His kisses leave me cold. His lovemaking is clumsy. I get nothing from him. I thought he'd improve but he has gotten worse. Shall I divorce him, provided I can find grounds? Or should I stick with him for the children?-No Pulse

Dear No Pulse,
You say you married this man for "his good qualities," but you don't say why he married you. One thing is certain: he didn't marry you to "keep his hands off." The unsatisfactory sexual aspect of your marriage is a reflection of your dissatisfaction with the whole man. You two need out-side help. Divorce is not the answer. Cure it. Don't kill it.