Dear Ann Landers, "That's ridiculous. A wife does not have the right to say no unless she has a good reason, and not feeling like it isn't good enough." He wants me to go for counseling so someone can "help me under- • stand." He says that if I go twice, he will go with me the third time. Ann, is it wrong for me to want control over my body and refuse to use it as a bargaining chip to keep a man I'm not sure I want? Am I being unreasonable when I refuse to have sex with him just because he's my husband? Please comment. -Ceiling Zero in Pa.
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