Dear Ann Landers, need some help and I need it fast. Whenever I say to my thirteen-year-old, "That's enough TV, go do your homework," my husband yells, "Stop nagging the boy." When I tell my ten-year-old to go back upstairs and wash his neck, his dad shouts, "Don't be such a perfectionist. He's clean enough." Yesterday, my eleven-year-old came to the breakfast table in soiled trousers and a wrinkled shirt which he had worn for two days. I told him to change his clothes. His dad chimed in, "The boy looks all right. Stop picking on him." The kids get the idea I'm a witch left over from Halloween and their dad is a saint. What can I do?-De-fenseless
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Dear Readers, , I realized that I had been making too many excuses for him. We had a frank talk, with me asking him, point-blank, “Don’t you find me attractive anymore?” He replied, “It’s not you, it’s me. I just don’t have the urge.” His response didn’t help much. When we do make love, it’s over before I know it. I am never satisfied. He is always apologetic and says, “I’m sorry. I’ll try to do better next time.” The “next time” is four or five weeks later, and it’s the same story. I’m feeling resentful. Here I am in my mid-20s and starving sexually. I hate to think of spending my whole life this way. I can’t risk a letter coming to the house, so, please, Ann, print your reply. I would be ever so grateful. -Unfulfilled in the East
