Dear Ann Landers, here are all those advocates of premarital sex when it comes time to pick up the pieces after a "momentary mistake"? And what do the advocates do to help prevent such "mistakes"? Do they tell the kids that though a relationship may be "meaningful" to one partner, it may be purely self-satis-faction, an ego trip or mere conde-scension on the part of the other? Do they tell the kids that a "mean-ingful relationship" may be so mean-ingful that one partner may have an overwhelming desire to cement that relationship with a child? 1098 Do they tell the kids they should never count on the other person to take precautions-and that to be per-fectly safe, both parties should count on themselves? Do they tell the kids that a girl's most intense desires are very likely to accompany her most fertile time? ("Just this once") Do they tell the kids that a person's "love" might be severely dampened by resentment and turn to full-fledged hate should that person feel trapped? Do they tell the kids that alternative solutions to an unwanted pregnancy are vastly more difficult to handle than coping with the challenges of virginity? Do they tell the kids that the legality of abortion is insignificant compared to the emotional trauma? THE ANN LANDERS ENCYCLOPEDIA Do they tell the kids that giving up a child for adoption is no simple matter for anyone who has had a "meaningful relationship"? Do they tell the girls that keeping an out-of-wedlock baby goes far beyond the enjoyment of having a cute little bundle of joy to cuddle and take for a stroll in the perambulator? Where are those advocates of pro- marital sex when it's time to mend lives suffering from their advice? A SHOULDER TO CRY ON
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Dear Readers, , adopted chil-dren, unwed mothers who gave up their babies and even unwed fa-thers. But you have never printed a letter from a white couple who has adopted a child from a minority race. My husband and I plan to adopt a biracial child, and we are running into unbelievable opposition. Both his parents and mine are against it. Many of our friends say we are crazy and that we are looking for trou-ble. Frankly, we have given up trying to explain. They refuse to listen. Please tell me, Ann, are we foolish to want to give our love to an in-nocent child who starts out in life with two strikes against him? These little ones of mixed parentage are not wanted by most people. They are, in a very real sense, handicapped. We want the challenge. We feel we are equal to it. Will you give us a word of encouragement, please? -From Iowa
