Dear Ann Landers,
Hank must have had sex with someone else. Of course, I was tested also. The reports were negative, which was no surprise to me, because I've never been with anyone else. Even Hank's sister, who is an R.N., wants to know why he won't fess up. I need to know the truth, no matter how much it will hurt. It's the lie that's killing me. Now I find myself questioning every move he makes. I love Hank very much and don't want to divorce this man. I need your help.

Dear Toledo,
My medical consultants say it is possible, though not likely, to get herpes through skin-to-skin contact that is nonsexual. Since you want desperately to keep your marriage together, go with the long shot and accept his word as the truth. I hope you have talked with your gynecologist about how to protect yourself from getting infected. If not, do so at once.