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Dear Ann Landers,
When does a father's responsibility to his college-graduate son end? My husband put his son through four years of a very fine college, including a nice apartment and all living expenses. "Chuck" graduated six months ago and took a job for commission only. His father paid for another apartment for three months. Chuck decided he didn't like his job, quit and has had three jobs since then. He also bought an expensive new car. Between the payments and the insurance, he is now in debt. Two months ago, Chuck came for a weekend visit and is still here. He has a good job at the moment, although he says it's only temporary until he finds something better. He could afford his own apartment but has it too good with us. His father won't ask him to pay for room and board, so he has it pretty easy. Chuck comes and goes as he pleases, and some days, the only words I hear from him are, "What's for supper?" I'm the stepmother and in the middle. If I say anything to my husband, I'm afraid he will be resentful and defend his son. I also don't want to alienate Chuck. What should I do? -- Worried Wife in Pa.

Dear Worried in Pa.,
When a second wife gets into a controversy with her husband about his grown children from his first marriage, she's a loser before she opens her mouth, but talk to your husband anyway. Chuck is taking advantage of you, and you should not permit it. How wonderful it would be if he found a lovely young woman. I'll bet he'd WANT to get his own apartment before long.



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