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Dear Ann Landers,
Recently, you printed a letter from a woman whose husband had moved out, bag and baggage, when she wasn't home. Welcome to the club. After 30 years of what I thought was a pretty good marriage, my husband vanished. He didn't leave a note. What he left was unbelievable chaos and a wife who didn't know what hit her. Of course, there was another woman, and she went with him. Before he left (with all my good jewelry), he emptied our bank account. I had exactly $300 in the sugar bowl. Unknown to me, our $600,000 house was listed in his girlfriend's name. Due to a huge error on my attorney's part, there was nothing I could do about it. My husband's $100,000 bonus from work was deferred until after the divorce. I was ordered by the court to pay $10,000 to "equalize" the divorce when he had thousands hidden away. I had no money for "asset searching" and didn't know where to look. It was an incredible mess, and I paid a big price for my ignorance. Within a year, my ex-husband died unexpectedly. His wife got it all. Our children got nothing. She immediately sold the home and promptly disappeared. This is what can happen when a wife is a world-class dumbbell and a trusting moron with a brainless lawyer who may have been in cahoots with her husband's girlfriend. I hope every wife who reads this will learn something from what I have written. I sure wish I had read such a letter a few years ago. -- No Name, No City, No State and No Brains

Dear No Name,
You did more good today than you will ever know. Because you wrote, thousands of wives are going to make sure what happened to you will not happen to them. My thanks as well as my condolences.

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, whatever they needed I provided. What really hurt my son and I the most was the obituary - we were not mentioned at all. Our friends (mine and hers) were appalled. I was embarrassed and upset for not just me, but for my son-who loved her also. I never been so upset. Her x-husband put his wife and kids and their grandchildren in the obituary, who my girlfriend barely knew. They live an hour away from us. I know its silly to be mad over a little section of the newspaper, but it still hurts. Will time let this devastating loss of her and this article ever go away? I am so angry at this whole situation, its not like we can go and rewrite an obituary notice.

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