Dear Ann Landers,
'm sure I'm not the only person who's had this problem, and I'd like your opinion on how it should be handled. My brother is dying. He was my fa-vorite and I am very sad. Before he passes on I would like to know if it would be all right if I did my mourn-ing at home and skipped the funeral. I would prefer to remember my brother as he was and not see him laid out in a casket. Funerals have always been depress-ing to me. I do not care for the "so-cial" luncheons that follow. The sob-bing of relatives is out of place since their grief never seems to interfere with their appetites. Sign this NEED-ING TO KNOW

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