Dear Ann Landers,
his letter is for the parents who are faced with the loss of a daughter who is terminally ill. They asked for your guidance. 3 4 h ANN LANDERS You,

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ear parents, have incredible strength that you are not yet aware of. Once you get past this horrendous shock and the "why me?" phase, allow yourselves to say, "Why not me, because I have the strength to make each day a good one for her." Let each day be calm, loving and ordinary. Do the sort of things the whole family would do anyway, as well as other things you may have been putting off. You will get much advice. That's OK, but trust your instincts. Parents who have lost a child by accident or murder or sudden death, whatever the reason, had no chance to prepare. Use what time there is to the fullest. It will become clear to you what is truly impor-tant and what is trivial. May God bless you. You are in my prayers. -Swarthmore, Pa.