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Dear Ann Landers,
My in-laws are nice people, but they cannot seem to be on time for anything. Last Saturday, they showed up two hours late for dinner. They made the usual tiresome excuses, but there were no apologies, and I know it will happen again before long. My wife gets annoyed, but she would never confront her parents. They are extremely sensitive to criticism and sulk if anyone expresses disapproval of their behavior. I don't want to be the bad guy, but this is getting to me. You've always said, "No one can take advantage of you without your permission." How can I handle this without starting a major family feud? -- Too Many Times in Kentucky

Dear Kentucky,
 Hold up dinner exactly 30 minutes by the clock, and then start eating, whether they are there or not. Leave their dinners on the table -- don't reheat anything. I'll bet after this happens once or twice, they will be on time.

November 30, 2014 - 25 comments


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Okay - allow them the 30 minutes then start eating without them. Try for a second time and if they are late again confront them. They are adults and should know how to behave and if not should be told. They are not that "special!"
 
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