Dear Ann Landers,
'm an attractive 2 3-year-old woman with a great job, money in the bank and a wonderful fiance. You'd think I haven't a worry in the world, but I'm a nervous wreck because I don't know how to tell my fiance about my fetish. When I'm feeling really stressed or tired, I dress and act like a baby. I have adult-size diapers, rubber pants, baby pajamas, etc. I put these on, feed myself baby food from a jar and drink juice from a bottle. Then I fall asleep with a pacifier and a "blankie." This soothes me because I imagine I'm being taken care of by a lov-ing father. I wake up in the morning refreshed and ready to take on my responsibilities. I've had this fetish since childhood. I was an only child, and my mother died when I was very young. My father raised me on his own. He worked long hours, so the only real chance we had to talk was at night. The first thing he did when he came home from work was dia-per me because I wet the bed. I stopped the bedwetting at age 12, and that was the end of a lot of attention from my father. I would occa-sionally wear a diaper under my pajamas, but after Dad caught me, he threw the diapers away and I no longer wore them. I am perfectly normal except for this kinkiness, but I know I can't keep it from my fiance forever. I just can't muster the courage to tell him, and I'm desperate for help. Please advise. -Twenty-three-year-old Baby in Ohio

Dear Ohio,
First, you are not alone. Several males as well as females have a baby fetish. In fact, a few years ago I saw five grown men on a talk show in rompers and baby bonnets, waving rattles and drinking milk from baby bottles. They all declared that dressing in baby clothes re-lieved tension and gave them a feeling of contentment and well-being. Psychiatrists with whom I checked said infantilism is not harmful, but spouses should be told before marriage about this fetish so there will be no surprises. P.S. A father who diapers his daughter until the age of 12 has a gera-nium in his cranium. But that's another letter.