Dear Ann Landers,
ack and I have been married fourteen years. We have six wonderful children. Jack's parents are people of means. They own a great deal of valuable real estate. The home we live in belongs to them, and we live here rent free. His parents even insist on paying the taxes. Jack's three brothers and their families also live in homes owned by their parents. My husband is an intelligent man, and I have great respect for his judgment. Yet his parents feel they must run our lives and even take over the disciplining of our chil-dren. Dozens of times I've wanted to tell my in-laws where to head in, but I've kept quiet for my husband's sake. I would give anything if we could live our own lives. But how?- Loretta

Dear Loretta,
When you decide you want to lead your own lives so badly that you are willing to start paying rent, you will take the first step toward independence. Your in-laws feel justified in running your lives since they are keeping the roof over your heads. You'd be happier in a broom closet over a bowling alley. So move already. The next letter should be of special interest to you.