Dear Ann Landers,
artha and I have been friends for 60 years. She told me she was sorry she was unable to work with me on a church project because she was going to the hospital next week for "a little surgery." When I asked her what kind of surgery, she cut me dead with one word-"minor." I felt as if I had been slapped across the face. I thought about it all the next day and decided to telephone her physician in the hope that he would tell me it was nothing serious. Well, Ann, I've never been so hurt in my life. The doctor told me to mind my own business and that under no circumstances would he discuss a patient's condition with a third party. I think he hung up on me. Why would a person be ashamed of having an operation? And why was the doctor so rude when I was merely inquiring about the welfare of a friend?-Chopped Down

Dear Chopped,
If Martha had wanted to give you any information about her surgery, she would have volunteered it. The doctor gave you good advice. Take it.