Dear Ann Landers, am a 26-year-old woman with a problem. When I was in high school, I cheated on my steady boyfriend with an older man. I discovered I was pregnant and was sure the older man was the father of the baby. Last December, after eight years of paying child support, the man requested a DNA test to determine paternity. I was stunned when it turned out that my daughter isn't his after all. Here's the real problem. When I found out I was pregnant, my boyfriend asked if the baby was his, and I assured him it was not. That boyfriend is now happily married and has children. I have been married to a wonderful man for almost six years, and he wants to adopt my daughter. Should I try to contact my old boyfriend and disrupt his life by telling him he has a daughter? Part of me feels he is entitled to know, but another part worries that I would only mess up more lives. Please tell me what to do.
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Dear Readers, , ready to lie down on your couch, and nobody is more surprised than I. I went with this heel for three years, and when I say “went with,” I mean I devoted myself to him, body and soul. I invested part of my inheritance in his business, which failed. When he was down on his luck, I let him move into my apartment and I moved in with my aunt. Last January he went into a nutty business that clicked. Instead of giving back my $5,000, he bought himself a new car. Yesterday he gave me the big news. He has decided he’s not good enough for me and I should find someone who is. His last words were, “Baby, you deserve the best and I hope you get it.” I hear he is seeing a wealthy widow who is old enough to be his mother. Should I invest in a private eye and throw the book at him?-Crushed
