Dear Ann Landers,
I am responding to "Unable to Cope in Indiana," whose husband gets angry and blows his top over trivial things. I had the same problem with my husband when our children were growing up. Here's how I handled it: When "Ed" started to pick on the kids, I knew he was stressed out, so I waited until they were in bed, and then I'd kiss him and tell him what a great husband and father he was, and how much I appreciated all the things he did for me and the children. My words of praise changed him from a growling bear to a pussycat. It worked for me, and I'm sure it will work for "Indiana," too. She ought to try it. -- Been There in Hemet, Calif.

Dear Hemet,
You have learned that you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Smart mama. Thanks for the short course on human relations. Have you considered serving as a negotiator for the United Nations?