AnnLanders.com - Dear Ann Landers: I just turned 25, and my mother is trying to marry me off to the son of one of her friends.
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Dear Margo,
I just turned 25, and my mother is trying to marry me off to the son of one of her friends. I have an excellent job and am not worried about being unattached. I don't date much, which is OK for now. My mother told her friend which days I had off so her son could see me. He called my mother, and she set up a lunch date for next week. Of course, I have to go. My mother has talked about my dating situation with my aunt and my sister, and now, I am beginning to feel pressured on all sides. I tried to explain to Mom how demeaning this is, but she became hostile and said she is only trying to help me. Don't get me wrong, Ann. I love my mother, and we get along fine, but this is more than I can take. My mother is desperate for me to get married, but I'm not interested in wedding bells at this point in my life. Even if the guy turns out to be great, I still resent my mother's maneuvering. What can I do about this galling situation? -- Oahu Mess

Yesterday's Response:

Dear Oahu,
You can tell your mother you do not want her to arrange any more dates and that if she tries, you will refuse to go. Then, keep your word.

Today's Response:

Dear Oahu,
You can tell your mother you do not want her to arrange any more dates and that if she tries, you will refuse to go. Then, keep your word. You also might try to help her understand that it is not organic for parents to set their children up if the young people are not asking for these introductions. Tell her if she is sincere in wanting to help you, she will respect your wishes and the pace at which you are comfortable going. Try to remember this, though, when you feel ready: a few marriages have taken place when two mothers got together...
- Margo

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