Dear Ann Landers, I've been going with a wristwatch salesman for 16 months. He takes me to the most expensive places, and last year for my birthday he gave me a beautiful watch.
Something weird is going on, and I can't figure out what's at the bottom of it. His stenographer is overly interested in our personal business. She wants to know where we go, how much he spends and what we talk about.
Last night, I'm sure I saw her following us in her car. The night before, she sat directly behind us at the movies. I asked my boyfriend to explain this. He said he didn't want it to "get around" because it'd be bad for business, but she's his first cousin. He claims she's very competent and he can't tell her off because she might quit. He asks that I be patient and overlook her odd behavior. What do you make of it?
Dear Shadowed, A watch last year, but this year, you're getting the works.
The reason the girl is so interested in what's going on is because your boyfriend has probably been making time with her, too. Plain, ordinary, everyday cousins don't go to such lengths to find out what's buzzin', unless they're kissin' kin, that is.
Tell your watch salesman to unwind himself from this private eye or you'll try to find a boyfriend from a less closely knit family.
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"Shadowed" needs to move on and out of this weird arrangement. There is definitely something wrong with this cousin and her boyfriend. Get out now before the situation becomes more intense. This is scary and she is nuts to put up with it. A watch salesman? Oh Please, this sounds so hokey!
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