Dear Ann Landers,
I do not enjoy his lovemaking. The first time we made love, I was so disappointed that I seriously considered breaking up with him, but his winning ways made me change my mind. I'm trying to convince myself that his personality and fine qualities outweigh his inadequacy in the bedroom, but I'm not hav-ing much success. After all, it's not his fault that he isn't well-endowed. Lately, Bart has been talking about marriage. My family and friends think he's fabulous and tell me how lucky I am. Meanwhile, I find my life becoming more and more entwined with his. People are beginning to think of us as "a couple." I love Bart, and I would really miss him if we should part. But how do I handle this sex thing? He is not fully aware of how I feel, and I don't want to hurt him by saying anything. I'm sure he believes he is a good lover. I've faked enthusiasm to boost his ego. He tries all sorts of variations and tells me how important it is to please me, but nothing seems to help. There's not much he can do about his anatomy. What do you suggest?

Dear Woman,
You say the problem you are experiencing with Bart is a matter of size. In that regard, what is, is-but with proper instruc-tion, Bart can compensate for what you perceive to be a serious inade-quacy. To pass up the chance to marry this man for the reason you stated would be sheer lunacy. When it comes to sex, my readers want to know what's spicy, what's kinky and what's what. Read the next few letters and decide for yourself: