Section: mental-health, behavior
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Meg's Comment
When I start to feel this way, the problem is usually self-focus. Constantly thinking about your own feelings, problems, frustrations, and issues is depressing. The best way to get yourself out of this boredom is to focus on someone else - how can you cheer someone up or help someone out? I guarantee you this will be a cure to your boredom. Everyone is able to show love, even if they didn't receive it as a child. Love is a choice - a conscious effort to put the needs of someone else above your own. It's not always easy or fun, but it is always fulfilling. Perform random acts of kindness - go out with a friend, pay for a random person's groceries, compliment someone (genuinely), look for ways to be incredibly kind and sappy . . . and you'll find that you're revitalized.
Kennyjh's Comment
Ann Landers insight and wisdom shines. I would take her advice.
WritersWriter's Comment
In addition to medication, emotional support is needed. As opposed to individual therapy, some recommend a process group, especially for people who are struggling to feel connected to others. In a process group a mental health professional monitors the group while participants share issues in their lives. Sharing with other people who could be dealing with similar problems give companionship, empathy, and emotional growth opportunities. Further, my child was having some coping problems due to bullying and the teen process group was by far the most effective activity to improve their self-esteem (much more successful than one-on-one therapy).
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A therapist sounds like a wonderful idea although there are many more options than just antidepressants or "talking sessions". I'm glad Brooklyn spoke up!I'd also very humbly recommend that we never compare issues. Brooklyn has a "real problem" and I'm so happy to hear that he's addressing it.
Brian's Comment
I am in the same boat. I'm 51 and find life to be boring as well. While I have bouts of depression and take medication to help, I don't really have any interests outside of work.
I have a pretty positive attitude towards life, in the sense that I don't feel was or overwhelmed by life, as I have before. I don't enjoy being particularly active and I find most conversation to be a snooze fest.
I enjoy my work and I also very much enjoy downtime, relaxing. I don't believe much will change (in this sense) for the rest of my life. I am at peace with that. I, very much, enjoy spending time with only myself as I get plenty of public interaction at work.
Find something that is mildly interesting. For me, it's watching programs about WW II. I find that I don't always need to be entertained, but content with life as I have made it. There is peace and comfort in that.
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