Dear Ann Landers,
've been going with a lovely young woman for about 18 months. Sara lives in another city, but we see each other every weekend. We are in love and plan to be married. Sara told me early in our friendship that her husband killed himself. Somehow, my mother and sisters learned about the suicide, and they are trying to talk me out of marrying Sara. They say when a married man kills himself it means his wife failed him. Sara is sensitive and in-secure; her life has been a trying and lonely one. I believe it is unfair to say she failed her husband, and I resent the suggestion that she is a poor marriage risk. I'd like your views. -Color Me Blue

Dear Blue,
First, about your family. Color them vicious. Suicide is an irrational act. A husband or wife who has lived through the night-mare should be spared the burden of guilt. If you love the woman and want to marry her, disregard your family's cruel insinuations. And you might tell your relatives to M.Y.O.B. The No-Excuse Sunday To make it possible for everyone to attend church next week, we are planning a special no-excuse Sunday. Cots will be placed in the vestibule for those who say, "Sunday is my only day for sleeping in." Eye drops will be available for those whose eyes are tired from watching TV too late on Saturday night. We will have steel helmets for those who believe the roof will cave in if they show up for church services. Blankets will be furnished for those who complain that the church is too cold. Fans will be on hand for those who say the church is too hot. We will have hearing aids for the parishioners who say, "The pastor doesn't talk loud enough." There will be cotton for those who say, "The pastor talks too loud." Scorecards will be available for those who wish to count the hyp-ocrites. We guarantee that some relatives will be present for those who like to go visiting on Sunday. TV dinners will be available for those who claim they can't go to church and cook dinner too. One section of the church will have some trees and grass for those who see God in nature, especially on the golf course. The sanctuary will be decorated with Christmas poinsettias and Easter lilies to create a familiar environment for those who have never seen the church without them. See you in church.