Dear Ann Landers,
wept when I read the letter from the Milwau-kee grandmother of a 2-year-old whose father had pushed the boy's face into his birthday cake and then videotaped the child's stunned re-sponse. I'm afraid that little guy is in more danger than your response indicated. The father is clearly a bully who probably suffers from low self-esteem. As his son matures, the peril to that youngster will increase. Will you please advise the grandmother to stay as close to the situation as possible and suggest that she be less reluctant to intervene? That father's behavior certainly sounds like child abuse. -Ruth, Glastonbury, Conn.