Dear Ann Landers,
've been going with a lovely young woman for about 18 months. "Sara" lives in another city, but we see each other every weekend. We are in love and plan to be married. Sara told me early in our friendship that her husband killed himself. Somehow, my mother and sisters learned about the suicide, and they are trying to talk me out of marrying Sara. They say when a married man kills himself it means his wife failed him. Sara is sensitive and in-secure; her life has been a trying and lonely one. I believe it is unfair to say she failed her husband, and I resent the suggestion that she is a poor marriage risk. I'd like your views. -Color Me Blue