Dear Ann Landers,
Our son and his wife adopted a beautiful little girl when she was 7 days old. The child will soon be 4 years of age, and they have not told her that she is adopted. We believe this is not right but hesitate to interfere. Any suggestions? -- Concerned Mom and Dad

Dear Mom and Dad,
I don't mind interfering on your behalf. Tell your son the child should be told that she is special because she was \"chosen.\" (And the sooner the better.)