Dear Ann Landers,
hat can a mother say to a 14-year-old girl who is spoiled, disobedient and disrespectful and who screams, "I know I'm a rotten kid, but it's your fault. You raised me." I raised her, all right. Her father was too busy playing golf, going fishing and traveling to sales conferences. He never could spare the time to give me a hand with this girl. I need an answer, Ann. -Tongue-Tied Mother in Appleton, Wis.

Dear Mother,
Untie your tongue, and tell your daughter, "Yes, I raised you, and I'm sorry I didn't do a better job. If you don't like the way you are, then make something better of yourself. People can change if they are willing to work at it. Be my guest."