Dear Ann Landers, ll my life, people have asked me if I'm of mixed race. Tie Best if Aik I a n n f n s / 147 At the age of 35, I'm ready to find the answer to that question. My parents separated immediately after I was born. My father in-sists that when he was away on a Navy assignment, my mother had an affair. I am deeply hurt that he does not believe I am his biological daughter. I approached my mother about this several months ago because I have many physical characteristics that are clearly biracial. She became very angry and cursed me for raising such an "insulting" question. Since that time, our relationship has been very tense. I'm afraid if I bring up the subject again, she may stop talking to me permanently. I want to end this estrangement, Ann, but I also want to know the truth. Am I blowing this out of proportion? What can I do?
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Dear Readers, , I can tell you. It’s because their timing is lousy, that’s why. Most men come home from work about 6 p.m., exhausted from fighting with employees, associates, bosses and the worst kooks of all- customers. The minute he hits the door, the kids are on him. Gloria needs a new dress for a party. Junior wants an electric guitar. All through dinner, the kids are campaigning and the little woman is in there backing up the kids. When dinner is over, the wife starts on what she needs. “The washer broke down today. It’ll cost so much to get it fixed we really ought to buy a new one.” “My mother needs an operation. You know who is going to have to pay for it.” “The living room rug is so shabby I’m ashamed to have people in. I saw a real bargain advertised in the paper....” All this chatter goes on and on until the lights go out. And then-zowie! In two seconds, the husband is supposed to turn into a sex maniac. This has happened so many times at our house that I’m sure it hap-pens in thousands of other houses. So stop sending people to doctors, Ann. Tell the wives to improve their timing and they won’t be so frus-trated. -Veteran of Domestic Wars Dear Vet: You and Warrior must be reading each other’s mail. And thanks to you both for your contribution to my mail today.
