Dear Ann Landers,
first met her in high school. She was older than I, and exciting. She'd been around. My parents warned me to have nothing to do with her. They claimed no good could come from our relationship. But I kept meeting her on the sly. She was so sophisticated and worldly. It made me feel grown up just being with her. It was fun to take her to a party in those days. She was almost always the center of attention. We began seeing more of each other after I started college. When I got a place of my own, she was a frequent guest. It wasn't long before The IIesi he Am Lan iie rs 269 she moved in with me. It may have been common-law, but it was heart-breaking for my parents. I kept reminding myself I wasn't a kid any-more. Besides, it was legal. We lived together right through college and into my early days in business. I seldom went anywhere without her, but I wasn't blind. I knew she was unfaithful to me. What's worse, I didn't care. As long as she was there for me when I needed her (and she always was), it didn't matter. The longer we lived together, the more attached I became. But it wasn't mutual. She began to delight in making me look foolish in front of my friends. But still I couldn't give her up. It became a love/hate relationship. I figured out that her glamour was nothing more than a cheap mask to hide her spite and cynicism. I could no longer see her beauty after I came to know her true character. But old habits are hard to break. We had invested many years in each other. Even though my relationship with her made me lose a little re-spect for myself, she had become the center of my life. We didn't go anywhere. We didn't do anything. We didn't have friends over. It was just the two of us. I became deeply depressed and knew that she was re-sponsible for my misery. I finally told her I was leaving for good. It took a lot of guts, but I left. I still see her around. She's as beautiful as when we met. I still miss her now and then. I'm not boasting when I say she'd take me back in a minute. But by the grace of God, I'll never take up with her again. If you see her, give her my regards. I don't hate her. I just loved her too much. Chances are you know her family. The name is Alcohol.

Dear Robert L. Rodgers,
I have never met her personally, but a great many people who have been intimately involved with your old love have written to say she ruined their lives. She has no class and no character and is totally ruthless. You didn't mention one of the main problems she creates. It's finan-cial. Almost everyone who becomes a victim of her charms ends up with money trouble. She's an expensive "hobby." Nor did you mention what your companion of the past did to your health. Many of her close friends develop heart trouble, stomach prob-lems and cirrhosis of the liver. 2 7 II / ANN LANDERS I'm glad you had the strength to end the relationship. You didn't say whether you had help from Alcoholics Anonymous. Thousands of readers have told me it was the only way they could get out of her clutches. Incidentally, I heard from a good source that she hated to lose you but she's not lonesome. She's on millions of guest lists around the country. In fact, they wouldn't dream of having a party without her! Funny that someone so evil and destructive continues to be so popular.