Dear Ann Landers,
My mother and father were happily married for fifty-two years. Mother passed away last June. Dad took it awfully hard-for about three weeks. Now he is so busy making dates with the widows in the neighborhood we don't know where he is half the time. Dad used to complain that his teeth didn't fit and his lumbago was bothering him. But since he has become a ladies' man he says he feels better than he has in years. To look at him you'd never guess he's seventy-five. All this is fine, but I'm worried that the night life might kill him. Is it possible that he is in his second child-hood?-Concerned Dear Con: Leave him alone. His second childhood may be more fun than his first. If he drops dead at seventy-five kissing a widow that's not a bad way to go.

Dear Ann,
Please tell me what to do about a husband who breaks things in anger. Never his things, mind you. Only my things. Immediately after he destroyed my best hand mirror (a gift from my mother), he ripped up a book I was reading and screamed, "There-I hope you are satisfied. You've been asking for this all day." I am sick and tired of being blamed for this lunatic's destructiveness. He has been behaving this way ever since we were married (ten years ago). Our children don't understand their father's violent outbursts, and they be-come frightened when he goes on these wild rampages. What is wrong with him and what can I do about it?-Hutchinson Heartache Dear Hutch: A California psychiatrist wrote a book called Games People Play. Your husband is playing a game called "See What You Made Me Do?" "See What You Made Me Do?" is played by an individual who is mad at himself. He yearns for an excuse to be mad at someone else. So he behaves in an outrageous manner and blames the first person who walks through the door. The only known cure for such child-ishness is to grow up.