Dear Ann Landers,
Last night my husband and I gave a cocktail party. Polly, the guest of honor, was never much of a drinker and I was surprised when she became plastered. When Polly complained that it was frightfully hot in the house and began to disrobe, I took her aside and told her she'd had too much to drink. My husband suggested she lie down. She be-came furious and shouted, That's a He. I am just as sober as anyone in this room. Then she fell flat on her face. My hus-band carried her to a bedroom where she passed out. This morning when we awakened, Polly was gone. A note on the dresser read: You humihated me before your guests. I will never forgive you. I am heartsick. Shall I call Polly and try to patch things up? My husband says if he never sees her again it will be too soon.-Chagrined

Dear Chag,
Polly's note was an attempt to put you on the defensive. Don't fall for it. Make no effort to patch things up. If she apologizes, accept it graciously.