Dear Ann Landers,
I would like to respond to the woman in Pittsburgh who misses the companionship of marriage, and wants to find a \"nice man\" now that her husband has been dead for several years. Here is a list of things NOT to do. Do not wear your wedding ring when you go out in public. It will scare the good ones off, and the bums will hit on you, anyway. Do not tell your date you have had enough sex and that you are not interested in more. It's a turn-off, and you could change your mind later. Do not continue to support your 35-year-old son who lives with you. You are \"enabling\" him. Kick him out. Do not tell your date that your dead husband was a saint. It's amazing how death improves people. Do not expect him to pay for everything. These are the '90s, and you are not 21 anymore. Do not sit at home and gain 50 pounds. Get out, and go to places where intelligent people gather. There are some good men out there who are lonely. Make the effort, and you will find them. -- Experienced in Florida

Dear Florida,
Thanks for that sensible advice. I hope they listen.