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Dear Ann Landers,
ou printed a letter from a woman who had showered, brushed her hair, put on a pretty nightie, dabbed perfume all over and waited in vain for her husband to make a move. When he did nothing, she said, "It was humiliating for me to ask him to make love to me, but I did. He told me he was tired and rolled over and went to sleep." I have a suggestion for that woman and all others with the same problem. When a man says he is too tired, be sympathetic. Say, "I know you are, dear. Lie on your stomach and let me give you a nice re-laxing massage . .." Get some cream or lotion-any kind will do-and give him a wonderfully loving back rub, working your fingers up and down his spine, onto his shoulders and neck, using a circular motion. The quality and variety of the massage is limited only by your imagi-nation. Chances are very good that the back rub will make him realize he wasn't as tired as he thought. A woman who wants love sometimes needs to be aggressive. She should not wait until her husband comes to her. So, I say to you wives out there, it is high time you got busy and made an effort to get what you want, need and is rightfully yours. -Successful in Ore.

Dear Ore.,
Hurray for letting married women know that physical intimacy from a spouse is not a privilege, it's an entitlement. I heartily recommend your approach. A woman once wrote and asked me, "What can I do about a man who just rolls over and goes to sleep?" I told her, "Wake him up. If he growls, ''Can't you see I'm sleeping?' respond with, 'Yes, dear, but you're such a marvelous lover, and I really do need you.' Almost any man will respond if you turn on the heat. " In 1966,1printed two letters from businessmen who were too tired for sex. They certainly stirred up a hornet's nest.



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