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Dear Ann Landers,
he mother who discovered pictures of nudes under her son's bed and plastered them on the living room wall was guilty of a cruel and insensitive act. Your ap-plauding her left me disappointed and mystified. I have read your column for several years and I know you are not a cruel and insensitive woman. I can only conclude that you were unthinking in this instance. It is not easy for a boy to deal with adolescent sex drives. Add to this the problem of a mother who makes him feel guilty and you have a very mixed- up kid. Here is a mother who, while snoop-ing no doubt, seized on what she thought was a challenge-in the form of "other women." She then displayed her find in a manner calculated to in-crease his guilt and bare his most se-cret emotions. Because the boy was embarrassed and tore the pictures down, she thought she had taught him something and "won a victory." All she did was fill the boy with re-sentment for her lack of consideration for his private feelings. Too bad you didn't tell the mother, and ALL mothers, that collecting girlie pictures is not uncommon, that such pictures are a source of stimulation for immature males and when the boy grows up to be a man he no longer needs his paper dolls. BEEN THERE.

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, whatever they needed I provided. What really hurt my son and I the most was the obituary - we were not mentioned at all. Our friends (mine and hers) were appalled. I was embarrassed and upset for not just me, but for my son-who loved her also. I never been so upset. Her x-husband put his wife and kids and their grandchildren in the obituary, who my girlfriend barely knew. They live an hour away from us. I know its silly to be mad over a little section of the newspaper, but it still hurts. Will time let this devastating loss of her and this article ever go away? I am so angry at this whole situation, its not like we can go and rewrite an obituary notice.

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