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Dear Ann Landers,
hank you, thank you for your wonderful re-sponse to that man who was concerned because he isn't well-endowed. You said, "Less can be more." What a fabulous response. A locker- room-type pecking order based on "endowments" can play havoc with a male's self-esteem and be downright dehumanizing. Those feelings of inferiority, unfortunately, can last a lifetime. Your sensible and reassuring comments made a lot of males feel bet-ter about themselves. Thanks from all of us.

Dear Atm Landers,
I was married to a bona fide stud for eight years. He was extremely proud of his "endowments" and considered himself a real prize. This man couldn't stop reminding me that I was very lucky to have him. Meanwhile, our sex life was hell. I dreaded going to bed at night, and he was always after me. Tht Besi bf Ann Laniiers (i !> Things went from bad to worse, and finally we were divorced. Then I met "Andy," who was wonderfully kind, considerate and thoughtful. I was relieved to discover that he was modestly endowed. This man is marvelously satisfying in every way, and I have never been happier. -New Orleans From Cleveland: "Shortchanged in Wyoming" needs to know that being well-endowed has absolutely nothing to do with love and lov-ing. I've been with several men, both before and between marriages, and I can attest to the fact that the most generously endowed were the worst lovers, and the least endowed were the best. Almost with-out exception, the big guys thought that all they had to do was be there because they were "God's gift" to females. These men were in-variably the most self-centered, egotistical and, I might add, the least satisfying. Elgin, 111.: It seems that "Shortchanged" is mostly short on confi-dence. I, too, am somewhat undersized, but no woman ever com-plained or ran from my bedroom laughing. Most women are too preoccupied with their own inadequacies the first time around. Chastity is in style again, thanks to AIDS, so no longer will there be the broad sampling that created a climate for all sorts of comparisons. This is a big plus for men and women, who can now assess one an-other's compatibility in a much more rational manner. Seattle: I have been sexually involved with at least 20 men. Please, Ann, tell your readers that size doesn't mean a thing if you really care about the man you're with. What matters is gentleness, generosity, consideration and just plain decency. Without exception, the men who had the most modest equipment were the most satisfying. I married one of them. Salt Lake City: Your recent column in the Salt Lake Tribune had the heading: "Underendowed Males Can Be the Best Lovers." Let me state from personal experience as an overendowed male, we can be the worst lovers. I don't wish to appear immodest, but I have had more than my share of female lovers, and almost without exception, they complained that sex was uncomfortable or downright painful. If a surgical procedure for penile reduction were possible, I would be a willing candidate. As you said in your column, Ann, less is more. (i (i ANN LANDERS



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