Dear Ann Landers,
y hus-band has been impotent for the past five years-which means no sex what-ever. Being a loyal and highly prin-cipled woman, I could not bring my-self to cheat on him. So I haven't had any sex either. Will you please educate your male readers who are in the same boat as my husband? A wife can live without sex, if her man can't perform, but she cannot live without affection. The very least a hus-band can do is hold his wife in his arms and tell her he loves her. I have never made one unkind re-mark to him about his inability to per-form. I know it must bother him terri-bly and I don't want to add to his unhappiness. But don't you think I am entitled to some consideration? It would take so little for him to make me feel wanted and loved. to find out how she feels. But don't be surprised if there are some changes in your life. The problem of impotency in the vast majority of cases is psycho-logical and not physical. A new rela-tionship might produce some high-oc-tane fuel that will make you wonder what happened to those hills. I have asked my husband to go to a doctor, but he refuses. He comes home from work, eats dinner (reading a newspaper at the table) and proceeds to get drunk. This goes on seven nights a week. I need some help. WITHER-ING ON THE VINE

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